If you are taking someone out on a first date then it stands to reason that you want to create a good impression. In fact, even if you are the person being taken out you probably want them to like you. It is easy to let nerves get the best of you on a date, which can stop you from being your best. Try not to worry too much about the date and instead concentrate on having a good time. That way you can have fun and this is going to give the person you are taking out the best impression of you.
Without a doubt you are going to want to be the best possible version of yourself. You want them to get to know you, but you also want to be on your best behaviour. You don’t want your bad habits to put them off at this early stage of your dating relationship. That said, you want them to get to know you so don’t change yourself for them, just clean it up a little bit if needed.
Manners Will Get You Far
You need to show them that you are thoughtful and have manners. This could be opening a door for them or simply saying thank you when they buy you a drink. Most of the stuff that we tend to do on a daily basis without thinking too much. However what you need to make sure is that you are on top form when it comes to manners. Don’t let these be forgotten, because you can sure it will be noticed if you do.
Whether you agree with it or not, the chances are that you are going to be judged for the way you look. You need to think about the date you are going on and how to dress appropriately for this. It will always go down well with a date if they can see that you have given thought to what you are wearing and made an effort. This doesn’t mean that you need to dress over the top, but wearing nice clothes and dressing smart will definitely go down well. You don’t want to turn up in a jumper with last night’s dinner down it, for example,
Try to steer the conversation in a positive direction. We all have problems with family or at work, but you really don’t want to spend your date talking about these. A date is supposed to be enjoyable and it won’t be if you spend time talking about things that drag you down. Use your date as a chance to forget your troubles and just concentrate on having a good time.
The whole point of a date is getting to know someone, Make sure you have lots of questions to ask. In fact you can even think about these in advance and prepare yourself. Fun questions are a great way of filling gaps in conversation and avoiding awkward silences too. Try not to be too intrusive and ask really personal questions – keep things light and general. Make sure you pay attention to their answers and use this to build the conversation on as well.
Of course, it should go without saying that you want to be nice. Giving them a compliment always goes down well. Speak to them about their interests and give positive encouragement for what they do. Thank them for a nice night and thank them for any tips they have given you on the date. For example if they were able to recommend the best wines to go with steak then show your appreciation for this. People love positive praise, so if they know that you appreciate what you are doing this will make them feel good. This is likely to help ward off nerves and keep you both having a good time.
Talk About Yourself
You don’t want the conversation to be one sided so make sure you speak about your interests too. You especially want to talk positively about interests you have in common. If there is something you have both done or both enjoyed then make sure that you use this to build a conversation. What you don’t want to do is talk about exes, bad dates and other failed romances – save that for another date! Keep the conversation fun and take your lead from them.
From their replies you’ll get an idea of what they like to talk about and what they find most interesting. Expand on these as much as possible and keep the conversation steered in a direction that you both enjoy. You can even read up on hints and tips before you go, which can help. Keep these tips in the back of your mind throughout the date.
Ending The Date
Make sure that the date is ended with you both wanting more, rather than letting it drag on too far and you both get bored. Take your lead from them as to whether you should kiss them or not. Generally speaking a peck on the cheek is fine, but you should check with them for vibes before you go in for anything heavier. Make sure you end the date with positives, such as another date planned or the fact that you’ll be in touch soon to arrange something. People love to know where they stand rather than going home wondering how it all went.
Generally speaking you need to think about what you would like from a date and what you like about people. There are no set rules but it is about creating a good impression. You want to be friendly, bubbly and show them that you are a nice person to spend time with. Most people can allow for nerves but you don’t want those to be too overwhelming and spoiling the date experience for you both. If you are nervous then don’t be afraid to admit this, because the chances are that they will be too.